When I first heard the words ‘you are not likely to conceive naturally’ I knew I was sharing an experience with thousands of others and yet it was the start of a lonely, difficult, but ultimately fulfilling journey. My husband Rob and I eventually navigated our way towards adoption and our two children moved in with us six years ago. The experience of adopting children who have been neglected and abused has changed all our lives significantly and forever. It has challenged and often changed our views on a wide range of issues such as identity, parenting, family and education and has often left us feeling misunderstood, unsupported and misrepresented.
I have kept a diary throughout this experience and I am currently drawing on this personal record to write an open, candid memoir. This is no tale of misery but an honest, and I hope humorous and current, take on what it feels like to tackle parenthood a little differently. My story will face up to some difficult questions: what it is like to contemplate never having children, what it’s like to parent children to whom you are not biologically related, what the impacts are of early abuse and neglect and how society and the media view children and families who do not quite fit the norm.
As well as charting our continuing journey as a family my blog will serve as a meeting point for information and comment on parenting, family and adoption.